I write a small series on my
Facebook Wall aptly called “Life With Wifey”.
The series comes with the
clarity that humor is important but
it also alludes to the fact that the wifey is confident about herself and
understands these are just jokes and is able to poke holes in my theories
and get back at me with some wonderful replies.
If I actually had second gender biases, the series would never have
originated, as it would imply I don’t treat my wife as an equal.
These jokes are a testament
that I don’t believe in second gender biases and women in my life are
equals or more!
Trying to get my passport renewed
officer: It expired in 2016, why did you take so long to come in to renew
Me: I am
a married man, my wifey did not tell
wifey did you know they legalized weed in most parts of the U.S.
that's mainly for people with medical problems disabilities and potheads.
You don't have any disability and you don't smoke.
won't understand. I have a wifey...
hence why I need the weed.
Reaction: after a few minutes of silence I got yelled at.
'A happy women's day' to all women across the
Globe. I personally subscribe to the fact that every day is a Mother's
day/Women's day and we should celebrate womanhood in all its glory and true
essence every minute and microsecond.
Without Shakthi, which is depicted in Vedas and
Hindu scriptures, the female form of Power, nothing moves. Anu (Atom) without Shakthi
(Subatomic particles) doesn’t move.
To show the
importance of my wife in my life here is an example, right from my mail ID
to all my passwords, I have always been using my spouse's DOB/YOB only, of late though, I am using my
first and newborn's DOB/YOB.
Ours is a
properly arranged marriage, I am a typical Chennai guy and she is from
Mysore, a small town in Karnataka. So, initially, during our sweet
nonsense, before the marriage talks, I had given her enough confidence that
she will have a secured life. More than anything, a woman always require a
sense of security. After 6 months of our marriage, having understood her
strength as a dress designer and having run an NGO and a preschool, before
marriage, I wanted to keep her in front and start something on our own,
which will showcase her hidden skills and strength. So, I decided to
quit a high paying job and we started two preschool franchises in Chennai. I had put all my savings money and bet
on her coherent strength to run this venture successfully. And it turned
out to be quite a hit, 100% credit to her experience and patience which set
the school’s standard high. We had articles in the local newspapers too.
This was one of the major things which we did during the early years of our
married life, which spurred other spontaneous things in life for us. Also,
it gave her friends and relatives back home, a 360-degree perception about her strength and qualities and it
gave lots of brownie points to her and catapult her leadership qualities
amidst her circle thus inspiring other women also to start something of
their own and be confident about themselves. This is a perfect story of a
small town girl coming to a mega city like Chennai and establishing an
identity of her own. She also continued her dress designing and a small
brand of women's western tops which we used to market within our circle.
And after that, I supported her in attending home baking classes where she
used to bake cakes, muffins, cupcakes and supply them to our neighborhood
parties. But her major breakthrough was a supply of 2000 cakes, during a
cultural event in SRM. During the whole challenge of getting the batter
done and outsourcing the baking and pricing it rightly, I stood by her, it
was a very successful attempt for a novice home
baker. Post this, she was in a family way, after 8 years of our
successful and fruitful marriage, we had a son on Sep 27th 2016 and for the
last 5 months, I have released my leg from the accelerator of my routine
business so as to help her in daily chores, we divide our time and duty
equally to take care of our son Vivaan. I not
only help in bathing and feeding the child, but also help in cooking,
wherever I can, to reduce her work burden and enjoy this phase of
womanhood, called Motherhood.
To all those lovely women as wife, mother and
daughters, we men folk respect and salute your extraordinary contribution to our lives. Thank you and please
stay that way.
mom is 67 years old. She went to high school during her childhood and lived
as a typical housewife who spent many
years at home listening to my father’s instructions till he was alive then
listened to her son and daughters. She never had specific preference
because she is used to live her life as per her kids’ and hubby’s
preferences. Be it watching a TV channel or watching movies, she never had
her own choice. I wanted to entertain her and bring her on par with today
digital world so that she feels empowered. I bought her a smart phone 2
years back. At the age of 65 she was not sure about how to use it or what
to do with it.
spent a lot of time with her in teaching her about the phone. Now she
regularly updates her FB account, reads all messages in WhatsApp and
searches for her own preferred contents in YouTube.
It may look small for this generation. But after my father’s demise, now
she has a companion. Now she books cooking gas through the app, she checks
her bank balance using mobile banking and does video chatting with my
nephew and niece. She is not dependent on anybody now.
Coming from a small town with little or no
experiences of living all alone in metros while I am on long official
tours, Kavitha, my wife has managed herself in
running the house, managing finance and growing it multiple times and made
our family enjoy the best that the world could offer.
She is not only at her best with me but is also a
best friend to our daughter Nikhita.
Memories are still fresh in my mind as to how she went and made our first
car purchase all by herself.
All I did was encourage Kavitha
at every opportunity that unfolded in front of us with a firm belief that
she could do it!